A few weeks back , over dinner a good friend of mine and I had a conversation about positive thoughts over negative thoughts , he was going on about how two of his friends were just eating his ear about all the negativity they are having about their work place . Sadly its true after a while it can get to you , He asked me how one can think positively and keep negativity out of life or work place . I’d say there are about hundreds of ways you can do it ( try googling it !! : ) ) I’d say just as how diverse we all are so are our thoughts, one persons’s approach might not seem to work for another person , but never the less one can give each a try and stick to what works out best for him / her.
I dwelled in negativity quite a bit in the past years , for all that has happened in my past be it my own doing or having things done to me , I have to take responsibility for how I let it affect me, was not easy to come out of it but would like to share a few things on how I took to tackling it .
# 1 YOUR MIND IS THE 1ST PLACE TO START .…change it !! .. everything has to come from a change of mind , not easy to think about a +ve thought in a given ( mostly ) -ve situation but if you can just about manage to have an open mind and come up with even the silliest of +ve thought in a -ve situation , then you can make the rest fall into place . In the beginning you may need to forcefully change your train of thoughts , then after a while it becomes second nature . Trust me this not easy but once you cross that , you gotten half the way !
#2 SURROUND YOUR SELF WITH +VE PEOPLE : This part is the 2nd most difficult part ( probably emotionally) . Every now and then you do come across those who just crib and whine about …. mostly errr ….everything !! The most common way to battle this is to see if there are any one with a positive attitude around you , try to associate yourself with them more .Hang around , talk , share your thoughts , little by little things start to change , some of these people can actually help you turn the -ve thoughts in to +ve ones ! but keep in mind point #1 – YOUR MIND
# 3 TACKLING THE -VE ONES : What about the negative ones around you ? Do you just Ignore, Ignore and Ignore ?. It is easier when it’s a stranger, you meet on the street but what about if its your close friend ? Family ? your colleague ? How can you just ignore them ? Before you totally do away with such people and ban them from your life , you need to define to your needs against theirs , ask yourself what is it that you want – what are you here for ? How is it that you are going to benefit from all this
During the conversation with my friend I asked him what was he working for , off course !! money goes with out saying but what are the other things do we need to keep the cogs working and the wheels turning ? He came up with a list of things ranging from learning graph to working atmosphere , now take all that see which ones are at top priority to you , in other words what would you give up something to gain something else , at some places the pay might be great ,but you might doing a mundane job , another place the working atmosphere is so great, but you really don’t get to learn much , its always one over the other ,Till you can strike a balance in all – that would be totally up to each individual . Now getting back to how to handle the negativity that’s bombarding you from either side?
- List out what “YOUR ” purpose /reason for working in your field /industry /office ( the reasons can be really spread out )
- See if you are able get attain or at least balance those things at your work place.
- Know this, that not everyone works for the same reason , and when your friends complain / nags- check out if their reason to be in the work place is the same as yours
- if it is not – be happy that your getting what you want.
- if yes – Don’t join the whine wagon!! – change your Job/ Company !!
Let’s face it not everyone’s got their dream job or ideal situation in life , just as diverse we all are in our thoughts and actions so are our life situations , Mine would be a bigger problem than yours and to you, yours would be the bigger issue – just the same- as in how you’d deal with yours and how I’d deal with mine varies . The bottom line is the choice is ours in the way we deal with it .
My brother tried his world’s best to get me off my a** to get off negativity , but it didn’t happen till I actually made up mind to do it . I can’t stress enough on the 1st point “YOUR MIND”. I know this is easier ‘read’ than done ! and there are more various techniques out there -try them out see what works best for you
– Good luck and stay Happy